Friday, August 07, 2009
Remarkably, randomly and unrelatedly, I have been having discussions with a fair few of my lady-friends recently about SELF ESTEEM. To tell you the truth, I hate even writing the word SELF ESTEEM. The words alone fill me with shame and embarrassment. It's so 1980s after school special. I am a teenage gymnast who feels fat and develops anorexia after pressure and sexual advances from my coach.
How is your SELF ESTEEM? Do you feel super-awesome? Confident? Beautiful? ENOUGH?
Yeah. Me neither.
It genuinely distresses me to think how much time and energy we ALL secretly invest into feeling bad about ourselves. All that time and energy we invest wanting to be thinner, smarter, beautiful, more creative, more like that other girl over there, I want to live in their house, but have her bank balance and that wardrobe. I don't want my daughter Ruby to grow up feeling like she needs to change herself in any way to be happy, the idea makes me both angry and sick. I don't want to pass on all my paranoia and fears and moments of self loathing. I have spent a LOT of time thinking about these sorts of things and subsequently removing all the people out of my life who don't make me feel good to be around.
I am sick of media who attempt to make us feel unworthy so we spend and waste money to feel better about ourselves. Mean people who put others down so they feel better about themselves, but I don't blame them. I am 100% responsible for how I feel about myself and whether I fall for that bullshit. (note: edited to clarify that I don't read magazines apart from Frankie & cooking ones usually!)
So today I will tell you that I am TOPS. I am very, very nice. And especially so are you. Every day for a week I am going to write something that I like about myself and I think you should too because I like you and we need to spend our time and mental energy on more positive and productive things, yes? We need to live and be happy in the here and now, rather thinking that we will be happy or more desirable if we were different in any way. We are perfect now. You know what IS IN. Confidence and happiness. I'll be having some of that please.
So for me I am working up to this slowly, today I like my: skin. I am super-dooper palepale and burn to a crisp in the sun, but pale goes with anything for any season. I get to have freckles and rosy pink cheeks and dark hair and no skin cancer. Today I am all about SKIN. It keeps all my insides safe and warm, and that is why my SKIN IS AWESOME. It looks good and is practical. I am going to like my skin today and look after it.
Wow. this is hard to do. Apparently as either a) ladies b) Australians or c) humans, we don't like to give big props to ourselves. I was debating even posting this because I felt so naff, but it's time to get over that and move on, isn't it? Yes. So this is me.
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